Our “inner child” is a reference that is heard more and more outside of counselling. One dictionary definition describes it as “a person’s supposed original or true self, especially when regarded as concealed in adulthood”. Our inner child often comes out unconsciously and consciously in our thinking, behaviour and actions, both positive and less so, and when acknowledged can provide vital communications of unresolved or poorly negotiated development phases. Where a child has suffered distress this can be held by our inner child element which can manifest in adulthood and influence aspects of our life.
Counselling can help individuals re-work areas which may be causing them distress in the present by looking at these younger years as well as current situations to promote growth, understanding and self development. Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. suggests “True adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and parenting one’s own inner child” and through this we can heal and flourish moving forward in our lives. Why this post today? I was sharpening a pencil and smiled to myself how I used to collect pencil shavings when I was very small because I liked the different shapes and colours. A happy memory with my inner child 😀