It’s official!…Overthinking is a TRAP!
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2026
It’s OFFICIAL!’…..OVERTHINKING IS A TRAP!
So what can we do about it?
Ever find yourself staring at a text message for 20 minutes, rewriting it five times, only to delete the whole thing?
Or replaying an awkward comment you made three years ago while trying to fall asleep?
Overthinking tricks us into believing that worrying equals problem-solving.
In reality, it just stalls our actions, drains our energy, and leaves us stuck in “analysis paralysis.”
Here are 5 quick ways to break the loop today:
1. Stop believing everything you think.
When a negative loop starts, play lawyer. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on cold facts, or - Read More
Grief Counselling
Posted by siteadmin on May 18, 2026
“When I lost my person, I didn’t just feel sad. I felt messy. Out of nowhere, old hurts and family stuff I thought I’d dealt with years ago came flooding back. I started counselling thinking we’d just talk about the loss. Instead, you helped me look under the hood at how my whole past shapes how I handle pain. You didn’t give me generic advice or tell me to look on the bright side. You just sat with me while I figured out the knots in my head. I’m still grieving, but the weight doesn’t feel like it’s crushing me - Read More
What’s on your mind?
Posted by siteadmin on April 30, 2026
“What’s on your mind?”
Honestly, where do I start?
Where does anyone start?
Often, the things we carry—the thoughts, the worries, the “stuff”—stay tucked away in the back of our minds. But during counselling, those things have a way of moving.
Sometimes they rush right to the front. Other times, they get pushed to the edge or stay exactly where they are until we’re ready to look at them.
Our brains can feel like complex filing systems, and sometimes just trying to pick the right “file” to open can feel like a massive challenge.
If your files feel a bit jumbled lately, please know that - Read More
The Magic of “US”
Posted by siteadmin on April 9, 2026
The Magic of “Us”
Togetherness isn’t just about being in the same room; it’s a powerful source of strength that transforms our individual experiences into something far more resilient.
When we choose togetherness, we aren’t just adding more people to our lives—we are multiplying our ability to cope, grow, and thrive.
Why Togetherness is Your Best Tool for Well-being:
* It’s an Emotional Anchor:
Having even one person who is truly present and responsive can be life-changing. It provides a “safe haven” where you can be vulnerable and known.
* It Reshapes Your Challenges:
When we face life alone, a setback can feel like a mountain. When - Read More
When anxiety feels like it’s taking over
Posted by siteadmin on April 2, 2026
When anxiety feels like it’s taking over, even the smallest tasks can feel like climbing a mountain.
If your mind is racing or your chest feels tight today, please know you’re not alone. In the UK, millions of people are navigating these same feelings, and it’s okay to admit that things are tough right now.
Here is your gentle reminder to:
Exhale. Try to make your out-breath longer than your in-breath.
Ground yourself. Find three things you can see and two things you can hear.
Be kind. You wouldn’t judge a friend for feeling this way; try to offer that same - Read More
** Appointments Available**
Posted by siteadmin on April 1, 2026
** Appointments Available**** Free Initial Consultation**Are you considering counselling?Maybe you aren’t sure if it’s the right path for you or what it may entail?To find out how I work, what I offer and how I may support you please visit How I work – Sarah Coe (MBACP) – Individual Counselling or visit my counselling directory profile Counsellor Sarah Coe – Bury St. Edmunds – Counselling DirectoryPlease know that I currently have limited availability to accept new clients and all enquiries are dealt with in the strictest confidence.
Why are you waiting?
Posted by siteadmin on March 19, 2026
Why are you waiting?Are you waiting for the sun to shine, the children to be older, a holiday to start or end, a birthday / person / feeling to pass before you “start”?So much time is spent waiting…”I just need to do this or get past this and then I can think about that”And in the meantime what else have you discarded or passed by whilst blinkered and trapped in the point of waiting for a “better” or the “right” time to come?Sometimes we need to trust in the wait, its active and it has purpose only when we notice - Read More
Mothering Sunday
Posted by siteadmin on March 15, 2026
Mothering Sunday can stir up a whole spectrum of emotions — and every single one of them is valid.
Today, we honour the mothers who nurture with love, patience, and resilience. We celebrate the women who show up in big and small ways, whether through birth, adoption, fostering, step‑parenting, or the quiet, everyday acts of care that shape lives.
But we also hold space for those for whom today is tender.
For the ones grieving a mother.
For the ones longing to be a mother.
For the ones who chose a different path.
For the ones navigating complicated relationships.
For the ones who mother in ways - Read More
Depression – one persons story
Posted by siteadmin on February 5, 2026
“This morning I argued with my wife. I had asked her to do something and she had done it differently to how I asked. I got upset and asked her am I so unimportant to you that you have to do everything your way as if my feelings, thoughts and decisions don’t matter?
She was confused by my outburst, by the tears running done my face.
After ranting at her for another few minutes telling her how useless I felt and unworthy
she told me that she didn’t feel that way about me, that it was how my depression felt about me and - Read More
Mindfulness
Posted by siteadmin on December 9, 2025
For those with the gift of speech, words are powerful ways to communicate our feelings and needs. Yet sometimes we can struggle to align our thoughts with our words or find the ‘right’ word to truly convey our sense of something. Being consciously aware of our words and mindful of what impact they may have on another person requires us to create a space between thought and action. The Sufi poet, Rumi sums this up beautifully for me with his concept of 3 gates…
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