Can you take a compliment?

Posted by on July 2, 2024

On my walk this morning I passed a beautiful cottage garden in which a gentleman was busy tending to. I stopped to tell him how much I admired his garden and he thanked me and then immediately pointed out the weeds, overgrown areas and how he should be doing more. We chatted some more before I continued on my walk.

What made me feel sad was how his face had lit up with genuine thanks when I spoke to him but how quickly he focused on what he felt was negatives of his beautiful garden. It made me think how often - Read More

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Control – what does this mean?

Posted by on June 13, 2024

Much of our lives are actually not in our control and yet we can find ourselves focusing and ruminating on the words and actions of others and in turn then our responses. Stepping back and looking at what we can realistically take ownership of in ourselves and that which we have very limited or non-existent influence over can create space to fulfil our potential selves and better serve ourselves and the relationships we enter into with ourselves and others.

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Why do we keep doing the same thing?

Posted by on June 13, 2024

The desire to re-visit and put right, alter or make amends often results in us making the same decisions resulting in the same outcomes. Many of our re-visited patterns are done so unconsciously in an attempt to unconsciously recreate an unresolved part of ourselves in the present day in order to heal it. Armed with only our own way of doing this inevitably results in the same outcomes and so the pattern of re-visit will emerge in different guises attempting to be seen by ourselves and re-worked. Counselling can help challenge those patterns and crucially by curious around why the - Read More

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Care & Connection

Posted by on May 16, 2024

Back from a weeks break and just sitting in my office reflecting on my time.

Where ever I am in my life be that my physical or inner presence , the people I care about come into my thoughts. They may rest a while and then continue on their way or they may sit a while longer before moving on. In those moments often I learn something about that person that perhaps I hadn’t seen before or it confirms something that feels important for me and perhaps then also for them.

Wherever I travel between those times when I am next with - Read More

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What were you told you’re not?

Posted by on May 1, 2024

What were you told you’re not?

Not sporty, not careful, not academic, not quiet, not practical, not thoughtful, not funny, not handsome, not sociable, not beautiful, not deserving, not…not…not

This can equate for many a innate sense of not feeling good enough, low self worth, low self esteem, a sense of lacking or being lesser in some way, low confidence and so much pain with . Pain that can show itself in depression and anxiety, skin conditions, ruminating, flu like symptoms, constant aches and pains, headaches, sickness…in short any way the body can try to express that sense of deep sadness and - Read More

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Emotional Wellbeing Information services

Posted by on March 14, 2024

Suffolk has a range of wellbeing services to support children and young people in our community.

The Source is a great user friendly and highly accessible website providing information, advice and support for young people. Their contact details are

The Emotional Wellbeing service is also available for children and young people aged 0-25 years.

From their website you can access confidential information, advice and support for children, young people families and professionals. You can also make a referral about the emotional wellbeing or a child or young person in east and west Suffolk and get information about emotional wellbeing support and local - Read More

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You matter

Posted by on December 15, 2023

My clients remain in my thoughts between our appointments together and breaks in our work together because I genuinely without any hidden agenda simply care about them, their lives and their world.

Why? because one person did this for me and changed the direction on my life.

I am here , for them, with them when their internal weather is a tornedo or a sunset, walking side by side with them if they can allow me to share in their world as they experience it.

It can be so hard for them to put themselves as a priority in their own life but - Read More

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ANNUAL HOLIDAY 21st November-7th December inclusive

Posted by on November 14, 2023

I am away on Annual Holiday Tuesday 21st November – 7th December inclusive

Upon my return, please know that messages received via email, contact form or my confidential contact numbers will be responded to as soon as I am able to during my working hours 9am-9pm.

If you, or someone you are concerned for is in crisis, please call 999 or contact the Samaritans 116 123 (24 hour helpline)

Sarah Coe

Psychodynamic Counsellor MBACP

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Complex Needs / Borderline Personality Disorder

Posted by on November 14, 2023

I attended an exceptional workshop in Chelmsford this weekend looking at our Complex Needs population – more often referred to as individuals exhibiting Borderline Personality disorder / emotionally unstable personality disorder.

It is often widely misunderstood and can be chaotically handled / mishandled in healthcare systems often meaning that individuals are treated for individual symptoms such as depression, eating disorders, generalised anxiety, substance abuse, relationship difficulties, self harm/suicide attempts in adolescence and adulthood without recognising the fuller picture that so much more is happening for these individuals.

Individuals with complex needs will very often have experience significant trauma particularly around relationships in - Read More

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