Why are you waiting?
Posted by siteadmin on March 19, 2026
Why are you waiting?Are you waiting for the sun to shine, the children to be older, a holiday to start or end, a birthday / person / feeling to pass before you “start”?So much time is spent waiting…”I just need to do this or get past this and then I can think about that”And in the meantime what else have you discarded or passed by whilst blinkered and trapped in the point of waiting for a “better” or the “right” time to come?Sometimes we need to trust in the wait, its active and it has purpose only when we notice - Read More
Mothering Sunday
Posted by siteadmin on March 15, 2026
Mothering Sunday can stir up a whole spectrum of emotions — and every single one of them is valid.
Today, we honour the mothers who nurture with love, patience, and resilience. We celebrate the women who show up in big and small ways, whether through birth, adoption, fostering, step‑parenting, or the quiet, everyday acts of care that shape lives.
But we also hold space for those for whom today is tender.
For the ones grieving a mother.
For the ones longing to be a mother.
For the ones who chose a different path.
For the ones navigating complicated relationships.
For the ones who mother in ways - Read More
Depression – one persons story
Posted by siteadmin on February 5, 2026
“This morning I argued with my wife. I had asked her to do something and she had done it differently to how I asked. I got upset and asked her am I so unimportant to you that you have to do everything your way as if my feelings, thoughts and decisions don’t matter?
She was confused by my outburst, by the tears running done my face.
After ranting at her for another few minutes telling her how useless I felt and unworthy
she told me that she didn’t feel that way about me, that it was how my depression felt about me and - Read More
Mindfulness
Posted by siteadmin on December 9, 2025
For those with the gift of speech, words are powerful ways to communicate our feelings and needs. Yet sometimes we can struggle to align our thoughts with our words or find the ‘right’ word to truly convey our sense of something. Being consciously aware of our words and mindful of what impact they may have on another person requires us to create a space between thought and action. The Sufi poet, Rumi sums this up beautifully for me with his concept of 3 gates…
A moment to stop and think about the people in your life that you care about
Posted by siteadmin on October 16, 2025
Today isPURPLE THURSDAY – Thursday 16th October 2025I will be wearing purple to show support for survivors & to raise awareness about domestic violence
I took this picture on my walk this morning whilst reflecting on the situations faced and experienced by survivors of domestic violence on today – Purple Thursday 16th October #domesticviolenceawareness
“I DON’T KNOW”
Posted by siteadmin on July 3, 2025
“I DON’T KNOW”
It’s a phrase many of us use when our search to figure something out is in progress. But what else could it mean?
That phrase—”I don’t know”—can carry more weight in counselling than it first appears. It’s often not just about lacking information, but can reflect all sorts of inner experiences. Here are a few possibilities:
Emotional Overwhelm The person might be feeling so many things at once that they genuinely can’t untangle or name them. “I don’t know” becomes a stand-in for emotional overload.
Avoidance or Protection Sometimes it’s easier—or safer—to say “I don’t know” than to confront - Read More
Lets talk about Anxiety
Posted by siteadmin on June 26, 2025
Let’s Talk About Anxiety: You’re Not Alone
Anxiety isn’t just “nerves” or “overthinking.” It’s a very real response to feeling unsafe, overwhelmed, or uncertain—even when everything around you seems fine. And if that’s how you’ve been feeling lately, you’re not broken. You’re human.
Anxiety can show up in many different ways: racing thoughts, a tight chest, avoiding things that used to be easy. Sometimes it makes you feel like you’re living in fast-forward, struggling to find the pause button.
You are not weak. Living with anxiety means your brain is trying to protect you—even if it’s a little overprotective.
You don’t have to manage - Read More
What matters to you?
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2025
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” – Martin Luther King Jr.What matters to you today? It’s a good question isn’t it…what feels important to you?From knowing this your values can evolve and create your bedrock to stand on particularly in the hardest or most challenging times in your life. A grounding space. A comforting space. Your space.
But perhaps this is a question that feels difficult to answer right now?
If you world means that there never seems to be the right time or space to really take stock of who you are, what - Read More
Why do we keep doing the same thing?
Posted by siteadmin on June 4, 2025
Why do we keep doing the same thing?
The desire to re-visit and put right, alter or make amends often results in us making the same decisions resulting in the same outcomes. Many of our re-visited patterns are done so unconsciously in an attempt to unconsciously recreate an unresolved part of ourselves in the present day in order to heal it. Armed with only our own way of doing this inevitably results in the same outcomes and so the pattern of re-visit will emerge in different guises attempting to be seen by ourselves and re-worked. Counselling can help challenge those patterns - Read More
De-stress music link
Posted by siteadmin on June 4, 2025
Feeling stressed and want to relax…sharing with you some tunes which are great for mindful relaxation and breathing, yoga or meditation.
Telephone