Understanding Loneliness vs. Solitude
Posted by siteadmin on August 18, 2026
Understanding Loneliness vs. Solitude
In both personal and professional life, it is common to confuse being alone with experiencing loneliness. However, the distinction between the two is vital for mental wellbeing
Solitude (Being Alone) is a choice. It is a conscious, positive decision to disconnect temporarily to rest, recharge, and find focus.
Loneliness is a state of disconnection. It is not a choice. Because it stems from a lack of meaningful connection, an individual can feel profoundly lonely even while surrounded by colleagues, friends, or family.
Emotional Loneliness often feels like a lack of deep, intimate connection with a specific person, often resulting in - Read More
Past or Present?
Posted by siteadmin on August 13, 2026
Some people wonder why the counselling I offer incorporates looking at their experiences and situations in the past, as well as thinking about what’s happening right now
For me, this quote sums it up perfectly I think x
If we spend our time living in the past, we miss being able to experience what’s truly happening now or being able to fully embrace new ideas or situations that might benefit us.
Equally, if we spend our time living in the present, we miss being able to reflect and grow, extend our choices or make different decisions as we will always come up with - Read More
Is counselling right for me?
Posted by siteadmin on August 9, 2026
I know the path is steep right now,
And heavy clouds hang on your brow.
But take a breath, and look at me —
You have more strength than you can see.
I will sit here by your side,
Through every rough and turning tide.
You survived the storm that brought you here;
You have the truth to face the fear.
Together we will see it through,
And find the path that’s right for you.
You are unbroken, wise, and true —
Step forward now, and trust in you.
www.counsellingsuffolk-norfolk.co.uk Sarah Coe – Individual Counselling
It’s official!…Overthinking is a TRAP!
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2026
It’s OFFICIAL!’…..OVERTHINKING IS A TRAP!
So what can we do about it?
Ever find yourself staring at a text message for 20 minutes, rewriting it five times, only to delete the whole thing?
Or replaying an awkward comment you made three years ago while trying to fall asleep?
Overthinking tricks us into believing that worrying equals problem-solving.
In reality, it just stalls our actions, drains our energy, and leaves us stuck in “analysis paralysis.”
Here are 5 quick ways to break the loop today:
1. Stop believing everything you think.
When a negative loop starts, play lawyer. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on cold facts, or - Read More
Grief Counselling
Posted by siteadmin on May 18, 2026
“When I lost my person, I didn’t just feel sad. I felt messy. Out of nowhere, old hurts and family stuff I thought I’d dealt with years ago came flooding back. I started counselling thinking we’d just talk about the loss. Instead, you helped me look under the hood at how my whole past shapes how I handle pain. You didn’t give me generic advice or tell me to look on the bright side. You just sat with me while I figured out the knots in my head. I’m still grieving, but the weight doesn’t feel like it’s crushing me - Read More
The Magic of “US”
Posted by siteadmin on April 9, 2026
The Magic of “Us”
Togetherness isn’t just about being in the same room; it’s a powerful source of strength that transforms our individual experiences into something far more resilient.
When we choose togetherness, we aren’t just adding more people to our lives—we are multiplying our ability to cope, grow, and thrive.
Why Togetherness is Your Best Tool for Well-being:
* It’s an Emotional Anchor:
Having even one person who is truly present and responsive can be life-changing. It provides a “safe haven” where you can be vulnerable and known.
* It Reshapes Your Challenges:
When we face life alone, a setback can feel like a mountain. When - Read More
Mothering Sunday
Posted by siteadmin on March 15, 2026
Mothering Sunday can stir up a whole spectrum of emotions — and every single one of them is valid.
Today, we honour the mothers who nurture with love, patience, and resilience. We celebrate the women who show up in big and small ways, whether through birth, adoption, fostering, step‑parenting, or the quiet, everyday acts of care that shape lives.
But we also hold space for those for whom today is tender.
For the ones grieving a mother.
For the ones longing to be a mother.
For the ones who chose a different path.
For the ones navigating complicated relationships.
For the ones who mother in ways - Read More
Mindfulness
Posted by siteadmin on December 9, 2025
For those with the gift of speech, words are powerful ways to communicate our feelings and needs. Yet sometimes we can struggle to align our thoughts with our words or find the ‘right’ word to truly convey our sense of something. Being consciously aware of our words and mindful of what impact they may have on another person requires us to create a space between thought and action. The Sufi poet, Rumi sums this up beautifully for me with his concept of 3 gates…
What matters to you?
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2025
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” – Martin Luther King Jr.What matters to you today? It’s a good question isn’t it…what feels important to you?From knowing this your values can evolve and create your bedrock to stand on particularly in the hardest or most challenging times in your life. A grounding space. A comforting space. Your space.
But perhaps this is a question that feels difficult to answer right now?
If you world means that there never seems to be the right time or space to really take stock of who you are, what - Read More
Complex Needs / Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted by siteadmin on November 14, 2023
I attended an exceptional workshop in Chelmsford this weekend looking at our Complex Needs population – more often referred to as individuals exhibiting Borderline Personality disorder / emotionally unstable personality disorder.
It is often widely misunderstood and can be chaotically handled / mishandled in healthcare systems often meaning that individuals are treated for individual symptoms such as depression, eating disorders, generalised anxiety, substance abuse, relationship difficulties, self harm/suicide attempts in adolescence and adulthood without recognising the fuller picture that so much more is happening for these individuals.
Individuals with complex needs will very often have experience significant trauma particularly around relationships in - Read More
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