What’s on your mind?
Posted by siteadmin on April 30, 2026
“What’s on your mind?”
Honestly, where do I start?
Where does anyone start?
Often, the things we carry—the thoughts, the worries, the “stuff”—stay tucked away in the back of our minds. But during counselling, those things have a way of moving.
Sometimes they rush right to the front. Other times, they get pushed to the edge or stay exactly where they are until we’re ready to look at them.
Our brains can feel like complex filing systems, and sometimes just trying to pick the right “file” to open can feel like a massive challenge.
If your files feel a bit jumbled lately, please know that - Read More
When anxiety feels like it’s taking over
Posted by siteadmin on April 2, 2026
When anxiety feels like it’s taking over, even the smallest tasks can feel like climbing a mountain.
If your mind is racing or your chest feels tight today, please know you’re not alone. In the UK, millions of people are navigating these same feelings, and it’s okay to admit that things are tough right now.
Here is your gentle reminder to:
Exhale. Try to make your out-breath longer than your in-breath.
Ground yourself. Find three things you can see and two things you can hear.
Be kind. You wouldn’t judge a friend for feeling this way; try to offer that same - Read More
** Appointments Available**
Posted by siteadmin on April 1, 2026
** Appointments Available**** Free Initial Consultation**Are you considering counselling?Maybe you aren’t sure if it’s the right path for you or what it may entail?To find out how I work, what I offer and how I may support you please visit How I work – Sarah Coe (MBACP) – Individual Counselling or visit my counselling directory profile Counsellor Sarah Coe – Bury St. Edmunds – Counselling DirectoryPlease know that I currently have limited availability to accept new clients and all enquiries are dealt with in the strictest confidence.
Counselling as method for dealing with psychological distress
Posted by siteadmin on May 22, 2025
This book was one of the first “counselling” books I read many years ago; “Counselling for Toads” by Robert de Board.
Using the characters of Kenneth Grahame’s Wind in the Willows it follows Toad who is experiencing a depressed state and his good friends Rat, Mole and Badger who are afraid “he might do something silly”.
“First they nursed him. Then they encouraged him. Then they told him to pull himself together….Finally Badger could stand it no longer…”Now look here Toad, this can go on no longer,” he said sternly. “There is only one thing left. You must have counselling!”
Such a fabulous - Read More
Could counselling be right for me?
Posted by siteadmin on August 8, 2024
I am so fortunate to work with so many gifted clients – not least that they have the awareness and courage to reach out from themselves to ask for support when facing life’s challenges.
And more than that…
Each person is so unique in the way they communicate and make contact. It can come through the power of the spoken word, music, writing, poetry, sport, movement, hobbies and interests, travel and so much more. We don’t just talk in our work together, we connect so that we can make sense of the challenges together and explore new perspectives, new thoughts, curiosity and - Read More
New Year…New you?
Posted by siteadmin on January 5, 2023
“I’ll start it in the New Year”..
It’s something we often say or hear but what does that actually mean?
“I can’t face this right now”
“I want to put this off /avoid it as long as possible”
“I don’t want to think about this”
But what if you did?
What’s stopped you up until now?
What’s stopping you now?
What is so important is to ask the questions of yourself without judgement but with curiosity instead…
You aren’t alone and sometimes it’s just so hard or frightening or worrying or confusing to follow through with what we feel might change our lives for the better.
Give yourself a moment - Read More
Why did I just do that?!
Posted by on February 6, 2016
“Behaviour is the product of relational experiences” Margot Sutherland.
In addressing behaviour we need to understand what is trying to be communicated. Sometimes we find ourselves acting or saying something and wondering why did i just say/do that?! Behaviour expresses a part of our inner world. It communicates a part of us we may or may not be aware of and draws on our experienced expectations …of self and other.
In understanding our behaviour we need to ask why we are communicating and relating in this way. What result am i expecting/predicting based on my experiences from the past in relating - Read More
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