“I DON’T KNOW”
Posted by siteadmin on July 3, 2025
“I DON’T KNOW”
It’s a phrase many of us use when our search to figure something out is in progress. But what else could it mean?
That phrase—”I don’t know”—can carry more weight in counselling than it first appears. It’s often not just about lacking information, but can reflect all sorts of inner experiences. Here are a few possibilities:
Emotional Overwhelm The person might be feeling so many things at once that they genuinely can’t untangle or name them. “I don’t know” becomes a stand-in for emotional overload.
Avoidance or Protection Sometimes it’s easier—or safer—to say “I don’t know” than to confront - Read More
Lets talk about Anxiety
Posted by siteadmin on June 26, 2025
Let’s Talk About Anxiety: You’re Not Alone
Anxiety isn’t just “nerves” or “overthinking.” It’s a very real response to feeling unsafe, overwhelmed, or uncertain—even when everything around you seems fine. And if that’s how you’ve been feeling lately, you’re not broken. You’re human.
Anxiety can show up in many different ways: racing thoughts, a tight chest, avoiding things that used to be easy. Sometimes it makes you feel like you’re living in fast-forward, struggling to find the pause button.
You are not weak. Living with anxiety means your brain is trying to protect you—even if it’s a little overprotective.
You don’t have to manage - Read More
Counselling as method for dealing with psychological distress
Posted by siteadmin on May 22, 2025
This book was one of the first “counselling” books I read many years ago; “Counselling for Toads” by Robert de Board.
Using the characters of Kenneth Grahame’s Wind in the Willows it follows Toad who is experiencing a depressed state and his good friends Rat, Mole and Badger who are afraid “he might do something silly”.
“First they nursed him. Then they encouraged him. Then they told him to pull himself together….Finally Badger could stand it no longer…”Now look here Toad, this can go on no longer,” he said sternly. “There is only one thing left. You must have counselling!”
Such a fabulous - Read More
What were you told you’re not?
Posted by siteadmin on May 1, 2024
What were you told you’re not?
Not sporty, not careful, not academic, not quiet, not practical, not thoughtful, not funny, not handsome, not sociable, not beautiful, not deserving, not…not…not
This can equate for many a innate sense of not feeling good enough, low self worth, low self esteem, a sense of lacking or being lesser in some way, low confidence and so much pain with . Pain that can show itself in depression and anxiety, skin conditions, ruminating, flu like symptoms, constant aches and pains, headaches, sickness…in short any way the body can try to express that sense of deep sadness and - Read More
Depression – Sharing with you one person’s story
Posted by on February 6, 2016
Beating Depression – Sharing with you one clients personal story of recovery- please read to the end if you feel able to
“For years I thought why me, why do I feel as though it’s always my fault, why is it always like this, why does nothing change, people give me all this help and advice and i just don’t seem to be able to do anything with it.
And then I realised, the only person blocking my recovery was me – but I had my reasons …right? That old chestnut, never fails to keep you stuck…
I had the choice to feel - Read More