What were you told you’re not?

Posted by on May 1, 2024

What were you told you’re not?

Not sporty, not careful, not academic, not quiet, not practical, not thoughtful, not funny, not handsome, not sociable, not beautiful, not deserving, not…not…not

This can equate for many a innate sense of not feeling good enough, low self worth, low self esteem, a sense of lacking or being lesser in some way, low confidence and so much pain with . Pain that can show itself in depression and anxiety, skin conditions, ruminating, flu like symptoms, constant aches and pains, headaches, sickness…in short any way the body can try to express that sense of deep sadness and - Read More

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New Year…New you?

Posted by on January 5, 2023

“I’ll start it in the New Year”..

It’s something we often say or hear but what does that actually mean?

“I can’t face this right now”

“I want to put this off /avoid it as long as possible”

“I don’t want to think about this”

But what if you did?

What’s stopped you up until now?

What’s stopping you now?

What is so important is to ask the questions of yourself without judgement but with curiosity instead…

You aren’t alone and sometimes it’s just so hard or frightening or worrying or confusing to follow through with what we feel might change our lives for the better.

Give yourself a moment - Read More

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Depression – Sharing with you one person’s story

Posted by on February 6, 2016

Beating Depression – Sharing with you one clients personal story of recovery- please read to the end if you feel able to

“For years I thought why me, why do I feel as though it’s always my fault, why is it always like this, why does nothing change, people give me all this help and advice and i just don’t seem to be able to do anything with it.

And then I realised, the only person blocking my recovery was me – but I had my reasons …right? That old chestnut, never fails to keep you stuck…

I had the choice to feel - Read More

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Why did I just do that?!

Posted by on February 6, 2016

“Behaviour is the product of relational experiences” Margot Sutherland.
In addressing behaviour we need to understand what is trying to be communicated. Sometimes we find ourselves acting or saying something and wondering why did i  just say/do that?! Behaviour expresses a part of our inner world. It communicates a part of us we may or may not be aware of and draws on our experienced expectations …of self and other.

In understanding our behaviour we need to ask why we are communicating and relating in this way. What result am i expecting/predicting based on my experiences from the past in relating - Read More

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Selective listening and the impact on relating

Posted by on February 5, 2016

Are you a selective internal listener? Always listening to the doubtful, critical sides of ourselves stops us seeing ourselves and others for who we/they are in our/their entirety. By accepting all parts of ourselves, warts and all, we promote a way of relating which can bring out the best in ourselves and others and relate in a loving accepting, non-selective way.
No one is perfect, we all make mistakes and we all do things we might regret – but love can repair and accepting that we have strengths as well as weaknesses and actively embracing those strengths brings us closer - Read More

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