It’s official!…Overthinking is a TRAP!
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2026
It’s OFFICIAL!’…..OVERTHINKING IS A TRAP!
So what can we do about it?
Ever find yourself staring at a text message for 20 minutes, rewriting it five times, only to delete the whole thing?
Or replaying an awkward comment you made three years ago while trying to fall asleep?
Overthinking tricks us into believing that worrying equals problem-solving.
In reality, it just stalls our actions, drains our energy, and leaves us stuck in “analysis paralysis.”
Here are 5 quick ways to break the loop today:
1. Stop believing everything you think.
When a negative loop starts, play lawyer. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on cold facts, or - Read More
What’s on your mind?
Posted by siteadmin on April 30, 2026
“What’s on your mind?”
Honestly, where do I start?
Where does anyone start?
Often, the things we carry—the thoughts, the worries, the “stuff”—stay tucked away in the back of our minds. But during counselling, those things have a way of moving.
Sometimes they rush right to the front. Other times, they get pushed to the edge or stay exactly where they are until we’re ready to look at them.
Our brains can feel like complex filing systems, and sometimes just trying to pick the right “file” to open can feel like a massive challenge.
If your files feel a bit jumbled lately, please know that - Read More
When anxiety feels like it’s taking over
Posted by siteadmin on April 2, 2026
When anxiety feels like it’s taking over, even the smallest tasks can feel like climbing a mountain.
If your mind is racing or your chest feels tight today, please know you’re not alone. In the UK, millions of people are navigating these same feelings, and it’s okay to admit that things are tough right now.
Here is your gentle reminder to:
Exhale. Try to make your out-breath longer than your in-breath.
Ground yourself. Find three things you can see and two things you can hear.
Be kind. You wouldn’t judge a friend for feeling this way; try to offer that same - Read More
** Appointments Available**
Posted by siteadmin on April 1, 2026
** Appointments Available**** Free Initial Consultation**Are you considering counselling?Maybe you aren’t sure if it’s the right path for you or what it may entail?To find out how I work, what I offer and how I may support you please visit How I work – Sarah Coe (MBACP) – Individual Counselling or visit my counselling directory profile Counsellor Sarah Coe – Bury St. Edmunds – Counselling DirectoryPlease know that I currently have limited availability to accept new clients and all enquiries are dealt with in the strictest confidence.
Mothering Sunday
Posted by siteadmin on March 15, 2026
Mothering Sunday can stir up a whole spectrum of emotions — and every single one of them is valid.
Today, we honour the mothers who nurture with love, patience, and resilience. We celebrate the women who show up in big and small ways, whether through birth, adoption, fostering, step‑parenting, or the quiet, everyday acts of care that shape lives.
But we also hold space for those for whom today is tender.
For the ones grieving a mother.
For the ones longing to be a mother.
For the ones who chose a different path.
For the ones navigating complicated relationships.
For the ones who mother in ways - Read More
Depression – one persons story
Posted by siteadmin on February 5, 2026
“This morning I argued with my wife. I had asked her to do something and she had done it differently to how I asked. I got upset and asked her am I so unimportant to you that you have to do everything your way as if my feelings, thoughts and decisions don’t matter?
She was confused by my outburst, by the tears running done my face.
After ranting at her for another few minutes telling her how useless I felt and unworthy
she told me that she didn’t feel that way about me, that it was how my depression felt about me and - Read More
“I DON’T KNOW”
Posted by siteadmin on July 3, 2025
“I DON’T KNOW”
It’s a phrase many of us use when our search to figure something out is in progress. But what else could it mean?
That phrase—”I don’t know”—can carry more weight in counselling than it first appears. It’s often not just about lacking information, but can reflect all sorts of inner experiences. Here are a few possibilities:
Emotional Overwhelm The person might be feeling so many things at once that they genuinely can’t untangle or name them. “I don’t know” becomes a stand-in for emotional overload.
Avoidance or Protection Sometimes it’s easier—or safer—to say “I don’t know” than to confront - Read More
Lets talk about Anxiety
Posted by siteadmin on June 26, 2025
Let’s Talk About Anxiety: You’re Not Alone
Anxiety isn’t just “nerves” or “overthinking.” It’s a very real response to feeling unsafe, overwhelmed, or uncertain—even when everything around you seems fine. And if that’s how you’ve been feeling lately, you’re not broken. You’re human.
Anxiety can show up in many different ways: racing thoughts, a tight chest, avoiding things that used to be easy. Sometimes it makes you feel like you’re living in fast-forward, struggling to find the pause button.
You are not weak. Living with anxiety means your brain is trying to protect you—even if it’s a little overprotective.
You don’t have to manage - Read More
What were you told you’re not?
Posted by siteadmin on May 1, 2024
What were you told you’re not?
Not sporty, not careful, not academic, not quiet, not practical, not thoughtful, not funny, not handsome, not sociable, not beautiful, not deserving, not…not…not
This can equate for many a innate sense of not feeling good enough, low self worth, low self esteem, a sense of lacking or being lesser in some way, low confidence and so much pain with . Pain that can show itself in depression and anxiety, skin conditions, ruminating, flu like symptoms, constant aches and pains, headaches, sickness…in short any way the body can try to express that sense of deep sadness and - Read More
New Year…New you?
Posted by siteadmin on January 5, 2023
“I’ll start it in the New Year”..
It’s something we often say or hear but what does that actually mean?
“I can’t face this right now”
“I want to put this off /avoid it as long as possible”
“I don’t want to think about this”
But what if you did?
What’s stopped you up until now?
What’s stopping you now?
What is so important is to ask the questions of yourself without judgement but with curiosity instead…
You aren’t alone and sometimes it’s just so hard or frightening or worrying or confusing to follow through with what we feel might change our lives for the better.
Give yourself a moment - Read More
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