It’s official!…Overthinking is a TRAP!
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2026
It’s OFFICIAL!’…..OVERTHINKING IS A TRAP!
So what can we do about it?
Ever find yourself staring at a text message for 20 minutes, rewriting it five times, only to delete the whole thing?
Or replaying an awkward comment you made three years ago while trying to fall asleep?
Overthinking tricks us into believing that worrying equals problem-solving.
In reality, it just stalls our actions, drains our energy, and leaves us stuck in “analysis paralysis.”
Here are 5 quick ways to break the loop today:
1. Stop believing everything you think.
When a negative loop starts, play lawyer. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on cold facts, or - Read More
Grief Counselling
Posted by siteadmin on May 18, 2026
“When I lost my person, I didn’t just feel sad. I felt messy. Out of nowhere, old hurts and family stuff I thought I’d dealt with years ago came flooding back. I started counselling thinking we’d just talk about the loss. Instead, you helped me look under the hood at how my whole past shapes how I handle pain. You didn’t give me generic advice or tell me to look on the bright side. You just sat with me while I figured out the knots in my head. I’m still grieving, but the weight doesn’t feel like it’s crushing me - Read More
The Magic of “US”
Posted by siteadmin on April 9, 2026
The Magic of “Us”
Togetherness isn’t just about being in the same room; it’s a powerful source of strength that transforms our individual experiences into something far more resilient.
When we choose togetherness, we aren’t just adding more people to our lives—we are multiplying our ability to cope, grow, and thrive.
Why Togetherness is Your Best Tool for Well-being:
* It’s an Emotional Anchor:
Having even one person who is truly present and responsive can be life-changing. It provides a “safe haven” where you can be vulnerable and known.
* It Reshapes Your Challenges:
When we face life alone, a setback can feel like a mountain. When - Read More
Mothering Sunday
Posted by siteadmin on March 15, 2026
Mothering Sunday can stir up a whole spectrum of emotions — and every single one of them is valid.
Today, we honour the mothers who nurture with love, patience, and resilience. We celebrate the women who show up in big and small ways, whether through birth, adoption, fostering, step‑parenting, or the quiet, everyday acts of care that shape lives.
But we also hold space for those for whom today is tender.
For the ones grieving a mother.
For the ones longing to be a mother.
For the ones who chose a different path.
For the ones navigating complicated relationships.
For the ones who mother in ways - Read More
Mindfulness
Posted by siteadmin on December 9, 2025
For those with the gift of speech, words are powerful ways to communicate our feelings and needs. Yet sometimes we can struggle to align our thoughts with our words or find the ‘right’ word to truly convey our sense of something. Being consciously aware of our words and mindful of what impact they may have on another person requires us to create a space between thought and action. The Sufi poet, Rumi sums this up beautifully for me with his concept of 3 gates…
What matters to you?
Posted by siteadmin on June 11, 2025
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” – Martin Luther King Jr.What matters to you today? It’s a good question isn’t it…what feels important to you?From knowing this your values can evolve and create your bedrock to stand on particularly in the hardest or most challenging times in your life. A grounding space. A comforting space. Your space.
But perhaps this is a question that feels difficult to answer right now?
If you world means that there never seems to be the right time or space to really take stock of who you are, what - Read More
Complex Needs / Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted by siteadmin on November 14, 2023
I attended an exceptional workshop in Chelmsford this weekend looking at our Complex Needs population – more often referred to as individuals exhibiting Borderline Personality disorder / emotionally unstable personality disorder.
It is often widely misunderstood and can be chaotically handled / mishandled in healthcare systems often meaning that individuals are treated for individual symptoms such as depression, eating disorders, generalised anxiety, substance abuse, relationship difficulties, self harm/suicide attempts in adolescence and adulthood without recognising the fuller picture that so much more is happening for these individuals.
Individuals with complex needs will very often have experience significant trauma particularly around relationships in - Read More
New Year…New you?
Posted by siteadmin on January 5, 2023
“I’ll start it in the New Year”..
It’s something we often say or hear but what does that actually mean?
“I can’t face this right now”
“I want to put this off /avoid it as long as possible”
“I don’t want to think about this”
But what if you did?
What’s stopped you up until now?
What’s stopping you now?
What is so important is to ask the questions of yourself without judgement but with curiosity instead…
You aren’t alone and sometimes it’s just so hard or frightening or worrying or confusing to follow through with what we feel might change our lives for the better.
Give yourself a moment - Read More
Our Inner Child
Posted by siteadmin on May 17, 2019
Our “inner child” is a reference that is heard more and more outside of counselling. One dictionary definition describes it as “a person’s supposed original or true self, especially when regarded as concealed in adulthood”. Our inner child often comes out unconsciously and consciously in our thinking, behaviour and actions, both positive and less so, and when acknowledged can provide vital communications of unresolved or poorly negotiated development phases. Where a child has suffered distress this can be held by our inner child element which can manifest in adulthood and influence aspects of our life.
Counselling can help individuals re-work areas which - Read More
Boundaries
Posted by siteadmin on April 13, 2018
Boundaries underpin your personal values and sense of self and making sure that they are in place promotes positive well being. Understanding of what is important to you to engage with your yourself and others in a healthy, genuine way gives you the sense of self that knows what feels acceptable and what doesn’t and this is the foundation for a solid core self from which to grow and love.
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